I often hear people saying that they are looking for their purpose. They hope that in finding their purpose their sense of identity will feel more complete and they can start to take action. But looking for your purpose is as illusive as trying to grasp your reflection in a pond. Just when you think you have it, the water moves and you’ve lost it.
But looking for your purpose is living in an ‘Outside In’ reality, where your personal identity is in something out there, rather than deep within you.
You were created for a purpose and so you’ve always been connected to your purpose since the day you were born. The feeling of not having a purpose, is really a feeling telling you that you just aren’t seeing it yet. This is often because we are living in an innocent misunderstanding about how life works and how our thought life can make us believe just about anything, until you wake up to the power that thought has had over you.
Now, I know this all might sound a little mystical, but really its just straightforward. Your neurology has been created with the capacity to reset. If it didn’t, you’d still be as angry as you’ve ever been. But, you’ve calmed down, seen something from another perspective and gotten some insight about your situation, that’s how our neurology works.
But, until you realise this and wake up from the movie that your thoughts have been playing, you are guided by your feelings, which are 100% created by the principle of thought and it’s like living on a washing line, blown about by the weather of the day.
So, you might say, ‘if I’m connected to my purpose, why do I feel so adrift.’ You feel adrift, because you have believed the thought that your purpose is out there, which is a made up story created by the principle of thought. That’s why your search for your purpose has been so fruitless, so frustrating and so emptying. When you see that your purpose is within you, you can rest in the fact that it will reveal itself to you when the timing is right, not when you believe it should. This allows you to rest in the ‘Not Knowing’ and trust that as you relax into the not knowing, your purpose will become clearer.
Now here’s the thing, when you force yourself to relax in an attempt to trick your purpose into revealing itself, you’ll end up even more frustrated, because you are applying an intellectual understand to an embodied principle. But, when you see, I mean really see, that your purpose is deep within you and nothing can separate you from it, even not knowing, you are more authentic in your resting and your purpose will become clearer.
Now relaxing in the not knowing is not a manifesto for doing nothing, in fact it is an invitation to experiment, test things out and remain curious. For example, when you were dating, did you wait in your room for the right person to knock on your door? Most probably, you went on dates and began the process of understanding who you liked and who you didn’t. You might have started with a coffee date and move to dinner and spending more time together, until you knew more about what was right for you and what wasn’t. When you knew more you made some decisions. So relaxing into not knowing is not a reason to not do things, but from a place of relaxing into the not knowing, become curious, keep your ears open for insight and experiment with different experiences.
If you are struggling to relax into the not knowing or you are wrestling with finding your purpose, contact me and lets talk and see if we can’t gain some more information about you and what you were created for.